As autistic parents to autistic children,
We are models.
We model both self respect and respect for others
Our autistic kin, and our intersectional kin.
We choose wisely, the people, places and things we engage ourselves and our children in
The round table conversations between adults outside our culture when they visit
Sexuality, gender, identity and culture are fragile and precious topics
As parents, we consistently reflect on and revisit our beliefs, our actions, and our language
We invite positive examples of diversity into our family life and culture
Queer and gender non conformist, neurodivergent, racially diverse, disabled..every BODY.
We speak openly and honestly and without prejudice or disrespect
Especially when another’s experience of being is not our own
We encourage our children to learn about difference
Autistic people have a natural essence of acceptance and curiosity about them when it comes to others and nurturing and investing in that luminous, beautiful quality is a gift to our world.
We call each other out on language, humour, pronouns, without invoking or casting shame
We love others
And we remember, that our children are always watching more than they are listening
Know your intersectional kin.
Adopt and embrace values that assure your autistic children that they are complete and whole.
Have them understand that non conforming identities are beautiful.
Demonstrate and gift to them a community of diversity, in neurotype, gender and culture so that they have family.
So that they know, without a doubt, that whoever they are; whoever they become will be more than acceptable.
That they are outstanding.
Be gentle in body, soul and spirit when communicating with those at our tables that within our home, we value diversity.
We learn from others.
From their acceptance
And from their ignorance.
Because we are modelling to our children
The revolution of the value and strength in diversity.