Don’t I look happy? . I shared a day in the life of me getting a haircut a month ago. . I addressed the anxiety associated with travelling into the city, finding a car park, panicking over whether I’d lose my car, forget where I parked, forget the route I walked to get to the hairdresser, sit with the discomfort of the sounds and chaos of a busy salon, panic that my card won’t work in the ticket machine, worry that I’ll get lost or do the wrong thing.. . And on it goes. . I leave here with a migraine every single time. . It takes me three days minimum to recover from the aftermath. . For an autistic person, a haircut is a sensory bombardment alone. . The travel and added stresses are a bonus (not in a good way). . Every single time, I tell myself I’ll find another salon so it’s easier. . But this is familiar and predictable, even if it is stressful! . So why do I put myself through this? . Because this really is life. . There are some things that whilst they are not compulsory, are things I want. . A banging haircut is a luxury for me. . It’s worth it. . And there are many other things in my daily life that I have to work with in order to live. . Repeatedly coming here doesn’t make me resilient. . It does NOT get easier. . But I have to make choices about what I’m willing to experience burnout over and what I can do without or change. . When autistic people push themselves to do things that we tell you are difficult, we really mean it with sincerity. . School, work, GP visits, therapies, family events, haircuts. . I allow myself space for the rest of the week now to recover. . But this is my choice. . What choices are our children permitted to make for themselves around what they can manage? . I’m forty years old and my support needs are still unravelling as the years pass. . I’ve had to learn to work it out and communicate my challenges and the need for recovery. . Our children often don’t have that right or they cannot express this because they don’t understand it yet. . As parents, it’s important for us to keep in tune with how our little people cope following events to know what they need in order to manage; IF they can manage at all. . Prioritising their care is paramount. . At the end of the day, we’re teaching them how to consider themselves.