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Sensory bombardment and choices

October 17, 2019

Don’t I look happy?
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I shared a day in the life of me getting a haircut a month ago.
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I addressed the anxiety associated with travelling into the city, finding a car park, panicking over whether I’d lose my car, forget where I parked, forget the route I walked to get to the hairdresser, sit with the discomfort of the sounds and chaos of a busy salon, panic that my card won’t work in the ticket machine, worry that I’ll get lost or do the wrong thing..
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And on it goes.
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I leave here with a migraine every single time.
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It takes me three days minimum to recover from the aftermath.
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For an autistic person, a haircut is a sensory bombardment alone.
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The travel and added stresses are a bonus (not in a good way).
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Every single time, I tell myself I’ll find another salon so it’s easier.
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But this is familiar and predictable, even if it is stressful!
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So why do I put myself through this?
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Because this really is life.
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There are some things that whilst they are not compulsory, are things I want.
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A banging haircut is a luxury for me.
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It’s worth it.
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And there are many other things in my daily life that I have to work with in order to live.
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Repeatedly coming here doesn’t make me resilient.
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It does NOT get easier.
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But I have to make choices about what I’m willing to experience burnout over and what I can do without or change.
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When autistic people push themselves to do things that we tell you are difficult, we really mean it with sincerity.
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School, work, GP visits, therapies, family events, haircuts.
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I allow myself space for the rest of the week now to recover.
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But this is my choice.
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What choices are our children permitted to make for themselves around what they can manage?
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I’m forty years old and my support needs are still unravelling as the years pass.
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I’ve had to learn to work it out and communicate my challenges and the need for recovery.
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Our children often don’t have that right or they cannot express this because they don’t understand it yet.
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As parents, it’s important for us to keep in tune with how our little people cope following events to know what they need in order to manage; IF they can manage at all.
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Prioritising their care is paramount.
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At the end of the day, we’re teaching them how to consider themselves.

 

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