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July 20, 2019
“None of this matters, you know”My uni lecturer said.On the phone to meAsking why I hadn’t shown for my exam.I gave her all the reasons.And she was right.I knew thenThat none of it mattered.The perfectionism.It was stifling.So much of my lifeI didn’t show up forBecause I knew it wouldn’t Be perfect.My brain wants everythingTo be perfect.It seeks out patterns,Formations,Numbers,Rituals,Routines,And where there isn’t methodStructureFamiliarityIt goes to workAttempting to create it.Perfection.But the body can’t be perfect.Nor could my skinMy hairMy life.So my brain set outTo control the elements it couldTo work towardPerfection.Counting caloriesCarbsKilosCutting my hairBuying new clothesAnd then when all else failedI did nothing.Because doing nothingIs what perfectionists doWhen they’re afraid Of imperfection.We don’t try.We don’t show up to exams.We stop cleaning.We bathe in self loathing.We seek control in new areas.As young autistic children We often avoid attempting anythingWe can’t guarantee we won’t doPerfectly.Perfectionism is joked aboutBut the reality isPerfectionism is painful.Debilitating.A form of anxiety.And once I knewAbout how my brain worksI was able to begin working WITH itAnd not against it.My autistic brainDoes not seek to harm me.It only seeks to be fed.Patterns, familiarity, control, safety....Kristy ForbesinTune Pathways..Artist: Mercura NYC.
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